Top Tips For Home Working Couples

Before deciding if you are going to move in together and start up that dream home business you've been nattering on about for ages, consider the expert advice from Clinical Psychologist, Dr Jessamy Hibberd for home working couples.

Moving in can be an exciting yet nerve-racking time; it means a change to the relationship as you make a deeper commitment to one another. One of the key factors in making the move a success - is to make sure you talk to each other about what you expect from the move and what is important to you.

Before deciding if you are going to move in together and start up that dream home business you've been nattering on about for ages, consider the expert advice from Clinical Psychologist, Dr Jessamy Hibberd.

Tip 1: Talking

Arrange to spend an evening talking about your hopes and expectations for starting a business together, home working preferences, anything you are worried about and what you can both do to make it work for each other. If you’re both clear about what you expect then it can take off the pressure.

Tip 2: Communication Is Key.

Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings and have a negative impact on your relationships.

Tip 3: Sharing

Plan to share chores and think about how home working finances will work.

Tip 4: Living together

It can be easy to take each other for granted, as you don’t need to make arrangements to see one another anymore. It’s important to take each other and the relationship seriously and to continue to be open and honest with each other.

The recipe for a good living working relationship combines interest in your partner’s life, affection, and the ability to laugh.

  • John Gottman a relationship researcher at the university of Washington found that couples who said around five positive things to each other for every one negative thing had happier and longer lasting relationships.
  • Make time for date night once a week, whether you go out or cook together at home.
  • If things do get heated, try to step away from winning the argument and instead make the aim finding a resolution – be the bigger person and see it from the other person’s point of view.
  • Be careful not to fall into the nagging trap
  • Share your love and appreciation of each other too.
  • Keep some of yourself, make sure you spend some time apart and keep up with friends and your own personal interests.
  • Be wary of trying to “mind read” what your partner is thinking, you may jump to the wrong conclusion - if you’re not sure about something then the only way to be sure what the other person is thinking is to ask them.
  • Say what you mean: if you are unhappy about something, discuss it - the other person cannot change how they are towards you unless they know what the problem is. If you say “I’m fine!” they may take it literally; if you’re not fine tell them why and explain it to them without being blaming so that they can take on board what you are saying and hopefully change towards you.  They are more likely to listen if you tell them in a calm and collected way.
  • Remember to listen; it’s the most important part of communicating well during home working hours.

Dr Jessamy Hibberd is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist and runs a private practice in London.

She specialises in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and adult mental health and she is co-authoring a series of handbag sized self-help and lifeystyle books to be published in January 2014. They will provide sound expert advice on the most common life-affecting issues that people typically experience, providing clear and simple ways to understand and overcome problems.

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